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Table for One?

A guide to surviving traveling by yourself on V-day.

When you are on the road traveling for work, it’s hard enough going to restaurants and asking for a table for one. It's made even harder when you forget February 14th is Valentine’s day. Days and dates all blend together and the only day that really matters in consulting is Thursdays. Thursday is the new Friday. On Thursdays, you get to fly out from your client site. Double bonus if you can leave early because there is only one flight back to your home office. So sorry you have to cut the work day short. Thirsty Thursdays start as soon as you sit down on your flight and pull out a stack of Delta snack coupons and exchange it for an alcoholic beverage of your choice.
Or two. Or three.

By now, a consultant should have leveled up on his/her alcohol tolerance powers.

Well, it was Valentine’s Day, but it wasn’t a Thursday, so I was blissfully unaware until I went about my usual routine of trying a new restaurant for the night. The conquest was The Press Bistro in Midtown, Sacramento. Ironically, I had passed this bistro and bar on one of my late night attempts to run off some of the jelly rolls that had started accumulating around my midsection.

Inspired by the French bistro and Italian Trattoria, the Press Bistro offered food and drink of the Mediterranean table in a relaxed, neighborhood atmosphere. The bistro, with its floor to ceiling glass windows and door, was inviting to passersby to peer inside, where small wooden tables of two’s and four’s were neatly arranged throughout the open-concept space. In addition to the dining room, the outdoors patio seating offered a 18-foot redwood community table, creating a social environment to share and enjoy food, drinks, and company.

Like a good consultant, I had done my research beforehand and had narrowed down my menu choices to either the pappardelle alla bolognese topped with finely shaved parmesan cheese or the grilled swordfish atop a bed of corn and zucchini risotto with a side of lemon butter sauce. I was going to make a game time decision once I got to the restaurant, figuring my choice would need to factor in:

A) How hungry I was after work

B) How much motivation I had to work out later (the jelly rolls were still rolling in the deep)

I was lucky that we ended up leaving work (relatively) early at 6:45pm, so I headed straight to the restaurant without dropping off my laptop bag at the hotel or changing out of my work clothes so I could beat the dinner rush. As I walked past the glass windows, I could see there were still a couple of empty tables in the back.

Oh goodie.

This means I won’t have to wait to get a table. I also decided to go with the pappardelle since I was feeling hungry.

“Can I get a table for one?” I asked as I approached the hostess.

The hostess looked up at me, bemused, as if I had just spoken to her in French.

“Do you have a reservation?” she finally replied after a long pause.

“No I don’t.”

“In that case, the wait will be about forty-five minutes.”

“Forty-five minutes!?” I exclaimed. “Sorry, but I saw two empty tables near the back as I walked by. Aren’t those available?”

“Yes, they are, but they are already reserved for couples,” she replied coolly as her elevator eyes scanned me up and down, as if ascertaining the various factors that made me single on Valentine’s Day. Was it the face? The jelly rolls? The whole package?

“You guys are sure busy on a Tuesday” I said.

“Well, it is Valentine’s Day,” she sniffed.

Oh shit. How could I have forgotten? No wonder the cast-iron pole with the restaurant’s logo in the cut-out silhouette of an agrarian press had a tiny pink bow tied around it. And here I was with the audacity to demand prime real estate— a table for two with no RSVP on what is probably the busiest night for the restaurant.

Clearly I was deranged. Valentine’s Day is a day reserved for couples. No singles allowed. Had I known, I would gone back to the hotel and ransacked the mini-fridge and devoured the carton of Ben & Jerry’s, while watching the Bridget Jones’s Diary re-run instead.

But I was here, and I was hungry, and angry at the fact that I was clearly being subjected to racism against singles, or what-I-call singlism. Hence, in protest of this grave injustice, I decided to stage my own sit-in.

“Well, can I sit at the bar then?” I asked indignantly.

Witch, I will not be denied my rights to life, liberty and the pursuit of noodles.

“Yes, but you’ll have to wait thirty minutes,” she replied curtly, clearly over this conversation with lonely boy.


“Fine. Please wait out on the patio. We will call you when a spot is available.”

I swung the glass door open again, and stalked off towards the outdoor redwood table.

“Who does she think she is!?” I muttered angrily as I sat down and pulled out my laptop from my bag. “Valentine’s Day is nothing but an invention by Hallmark as an excuse to sell more flowers, chocolates, cards and pinkness.”

Deciding to make good use of this waiting time, I called up my reliable companion through many lonely nights in the hotel room, Ms. Excel. I also pulled out my noise canceling headphones and immersed myself in a dance with Ms. Excel through a sequence of steps and pivots whilst listening to my Taylor Swift Spotify soundtrack.

♫The haters gonna hate, hate, hate, hate, hate
Baby, I'm just gonna shake, shake, shake, shake, shake
I shake it off, I shake it off♫

It was now past 7 pm and the dinner rush was starting as many couples began to arrive. All of them were dressed up in smart blazers and dresses, while I looked like a slob in my increasingly wrinkled dress shirt, now half untucked. Some couples didn’t make reservations either, so they joined me on the waiting list outside.

Every ten minutes or so, the hostess would come outside and call a name:

“John? John? Party of two?” said the hostess as she surveyed her clipboard.

Inevitably, a tall and handsome man wearing a slim-fit suit and tie stands up, proffers an arm to his leggy blonde girlfriend and gives her a peck on the lips before the pair walks jauntily into the restaurant, holding hands.


I was determined not to be distracted by this pair of showboats, so I turned up the music even louder and refocused my efforts on my spreadsheet. I must have become too engrossed in my work because the next time I looked up, I could hear the hostess shouting almost at the top of her voice.


The couples who had been chatting animatedly around me suddenly became quiet, like noisy kindergardeners in a classroom when the teacher suddenly walks in unannounced. All eyes started to search for this “Ben, party of one.”

Of course, I was not difficult to find. The crowd which had congregated around me slowly parted like the red sea, unveiling a lone figure sitting in the corner, typing away furiously on an HP laptop while accompanied by an imaginary gf and wearing a pair of over-sized headphone that made him look like a buffoon.

Can I just say they were BOSE headphones and they work really well to cancel out noise? Clearly it’s not my fault I didn’t hear the hostess sooner.

Again, the congregated crowd collectively joined in the elevator eyes exercises, and judged me up and down:

“Must be a workaholic, just look at him, working on Valentine’s Day. No wonder he’s single.”

“Ugh, no girl would want a guy in that outfit.”

“Awww, pity, he looks like a nice person. Must be one of those socially inept programmer types, who dates someone through WoW avatars. He looks like the stereotypical nerdy Asian prototype.”

I chose to be the bigger person, and ignored all the mental snide comments above, and followed the hostess into the restaurant. I was shown to my seat at the bar, and I was seated next to an elderly woman with wisps of snowy white hair.

“Hello dearie,” said the elderly woman as I settled into my bar stool. “Are you waiting for your special lady friend?”

“Um, no,” I replied, not sure exactly what to say. “I’m traveling for work and forgot today was Valentine’s Day……”

“Oh. I see.”

Awkward silence.

“Sooooo…..how about you? Are you, er, waiting for your, er, special gentleman friend?” I spluttered, trying to deflect the attention back onto her.

(I will acknowledge it was not my finest linguistic moment)

“Oh, my husband just went outside to the car to get my cardigan. It feels a bit cold in here. Old bones, you know.”

“Yes, yes,” I nodded in agreement. Idiot. What I know about old bones?

More awkward silence.

Luckily, I was rescued by the bartender.

Whatever, I’ll find comfort in my food. Comfort food, right? Besides, I had already picked out what I wanted for dinner. Parapadelle con Raghu. Mhmmmm. Wide soft noodles with meaty tomato pesto sauce. Comfort indeed.

“Would you like to see a drinks menu?” said the bartender as his hands worked non-stop, preparing a cocktail.

I looked at the wine menu, and picked out a lovely Bordeaux blend from Chateau la Valade—vintage 2009.

The place was busy, so I had downed half my glass of my wine before the bar tender came back to take my order.

“Would you like another glass?” he asked politely.

“Yes, but can I also get the Parapadelle con Raghu, please?” thinking how well it would go with my Bordeaux blend.

“I’m sorry sir, since it’s Valentine’s day, we only have the Valentine’s day menu….”

Are you freaking kidding me? Even the menu was designed for couples?

Now I was really hungary—angry and hungry. My mind went through the options:

  • 1. Throw a fit and leave angrily after downing the rest of my glass of wine. (Although it probably would make me seem like an angry drunk, which would be yet another reason I was dining alone on V-day)
  • 2. Try to go to another restaurant, and repeat the same humiliating process all over again
  • 3. Go back to hotel and eat the leftover airplane peanuts while drinking a bottle of cheap cabernet (and possibly waking up tomorrow passed out on the bathroom)
  • 4. Stay and request another bottle of wine. There’s no problem that alcohol can’t resolve.

I decided to go with option 4.

“Fine, can I see the Valentine’s dinner menu, then?” I answered waspishly.

“Sure. But just so you know, it’s a set menu, three courses, and the portions are designed for two.”

“That won’t be a problem,” I replied swiftly. “Valentine’s day is about heart, right? Well, then I’m going to eat my heart out.”

“Can I get you another glass of wine, then?” he laughed.

“Make it a bottle.”

Two hours later, I was stuffed, drunk, and happy. I knew I was always the bigger person. After this meal, I was literally a bigger person. Mission accomplished. Take that Valentine’s day.


Posted by CuriousCaseOf 16:21 Archived in USA Comments (0)

Can you guess where I am?

Traveling for work is still traveling, right?


Being on the road every week can make traveling seem not fun at times. I mean, who doesn't want to start off every Monday morning with a cup of Starbucks and getting violated by TSA either physically or digitally? Thankfully, I still enjoy traveling, especially when I can take photos of cool places:



Can you guess where I am? :)

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When a frequent traveler reaches his/her last mile....

Salon Travel: Out of the Blue, a biweekly column about a flight attendant's life

Delays, excuses, tiny airplanes, no peanuts.....ahhhhh.....the joyous world of Up in the Air travel. It's definitely not for everyone. I haven't reached the same boiling point as these people below, but I've come close. Just waiting for that last mile before I snap

A few years ago on a United Airlines flight from Buenos Aires to New York, Gerard B. Finneran, an investment banker, went totally bonkers. Newspaper accounts said that after becoming intoxicated, Finneran demanded more alcohol from the flight attendants. When they refused, he began helping himself to the liquor supply. After being cut off a second time, he became visibly angry. He pushed one flight attendant (federal offense No. 1), verbally threatened another (federal offense No. 2), interfered with a third who was assisting a sick passenger (federal offense No. 3), then walked up to the first-class cabin, dropped his pants and defecated on a service cart in plain view of the passengers and crew. Then he stepped in his own feces and tracked it through the main cabin (federal offense Nos. 4, 5 and possibly 6).

Finneran was arrested upon landing in New York. He subsequently pleaded guilty to assault and was sentenced to two years probation. In addition, he was given 300 hours of community service and a $5,000 fine and was ordered to pay more than $50,000 in restitution to the airline and to reimburse fellow passengers for the price of their tickets. (Not surprisingly, Finneran's lawyer said his client was "ill" when he committed the now infamous in-flight atrocity.)

Every one of the estimated 110,000 flight attendants currently flying in the United States has witnessed strange behavior in the air. Occasionally, as in the case of Finneran, passenger misconduct exceeds all rational limits. Sometimes these in-flight incidents are violent; sometimes they're wickedly funny. Either way, the following examples will give you a better idea of what flight attendants put up with every day:

Seated side-by-side on a 14-hour overseas flight, two business-class passengers became romantically involved. At some point they began kissing and fondling each other while sitting in their seats. The passion became so intense that the couple began having sexual intercourse in their seats. Bewildered passengers immediately began ringing their flight attendant call buttons. Despite the flight attendants' urgent pleas, the couple refused to terminate their airborne lovemaking. Ultimately, the captain had to intervene. It was necessary for him to physically separate the lovers to get them to stop.

While a female flight attendant was serving food from the meal cart, a female passenger thrust a small bundle of trash toward her. "Take this," the passenger demanded. Realizing that the trash was actually a used baby diaper, the attendant instructed the passenger to take it to the lavatory herself and dispose of it. "No," the passenger replied. "You take it!" The attendant explained that she couldn't dispose of the dirty diaper because she was serving food -- handling the diaper would be unsanitary. But that wasn't a good enough answer for the passenger. Angered by her refusal, the passenger hurled the diaper at the flight attendant. It struck her square in the head, depositing chunks of baby dung that clung to her blond locks. The infuriated attendant leapt upon the passenger, strangling her until passengers could separate the two.

During a full flight between New York and London, a passenger noticed that the sleeping man in the window seat looked a bit pale. Sensing that something was wrong yet not wanting to wake him, the concerned passenger alerted flight attendants, who soon determined that the sleeping man was actually dead. Apparently, he had died a few hours earlier because his body was completely cold. Horrified by the prospect of sitting next to a dead man, the passenger demanded another seat. But the flight was completely full; every single seat was occupied. Finally one flight attendant had an inspiration. She approached a uniformed military officer, and he agreed to sit next to the dead man for the duration of the flight.

Passengers on a flight from Miami to San Juan, Puerto Rico, were stunned by the actions of one deranged passenger. He walked to the rear of the plane, then charged up the aisle, slapping passengers' heads along the way. Next he kicked a pregnant flight attendant, who immediately fell to the ground. As if that weren't enough, he then bit a young boy on the arm. At this point the man was restrained and handcuffed by crew members. He was arrested upon arrival.

When bad weather closed the Dallas/Fort Worth airport for several hours, departing planes were stuck on the ground for the duration. One frustrated passenger, a young woman, walked up to a female flight attendant and said, "I'm sorry, but I have to do this." The passenger then punched the flight attendant in the face, breaking her nose.

A flight attendant returning to work after a double-mastectomy and a struggle with multiple sclerosis had a run-in with a disgruntled passenger. One of the last to board the plane, the passenger became enraged when there was no room in the overhead bin above his seat. He snatched the bags from the compartment and threw them on the floor, then put his own bag in the empty bin. After hearing angry cries from passengers, the flight attendant appeared from the galley to see what the fuss was all about. When the passengers explained what happened, she turned to the offending passenger. "Sir, you can't do that," she said. The passenger then rose from his seat and broke her jaw with one punch.

For some reason, a drunken passenger began throwing peanuts at a well-built man across the aisle. The man was sitting with his wife, minding his own business. When the first peanut hit him in the face, he ignored it. After the second peanut struck him, he looked up to see who had thrown it. He threw a harsh look at the perpetrator, expecting him to cease immediately. When a third peanut hit him in the eye, he'd had enough. "Do that again," he warned, "and I'll punch your lights out." But the peanut-tossing passenger couldn't resist. He did it one last time. The victim got out of his seat, then triple-punched the assailant so hard that witnesses heard his jaw break. The plane was diverted to the closest airport and the peanut-tosser was kicked off.

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7 Ways You’re Ruining My Business Travel

Thanks for writing this Mark Stelzner...this is the story of my life! (aka I'm a fellow business traveler, who is working on getting his super-platinum-double-premier boarding group. Only a few thousand miles left to go!)

Remember that (not so great) movie several years ago which featured Tom Hanks living in an airport terminal? For the bulk of 2011, that has been me. And although I’m not exactly setting up camp at O’Hare or living out of a vending machine at Logan, I’m rapidly approaching 100,000 miles of domestic business travel so far this year. I know, I know… I live a glamourous life.

With the exception of the rare burst of wisdom from a drunken journeyman, much of my transit this year has been nothing short of horrific. Every trite travel truism you can possibly conjure has come into play as I’ve toured our great nation. As my frustration grew, I started to look for someone (anyone!) I could blame for my displeasure. It took a few strong in-flight beverages to deconstruct, but I’ve realized that you, fellow traveller, have behaved in seven ways that have destroyed my business travel bliss:

1. TSA What?

As if transported from an era when chiseled stone memorialized common knowledge, these wide-eyed newbies approach the security process replete with wonder and ignorance. “But I don’t want to take off my shoes.” “What do you mean I need to chug my Monster energy drink?” “A seven ounce tube of lube is against what rule, exactly?” These are actual words spoken by those line-jamming plebes who can’t comprehend the endless multi-media displays and government payrolled cattle herders surrounding every airport terminal. Welcome to the modern age and get it together people.

2. “Now Boarding…”

To you self-important and overly entitled status hoarders, I have a simple observation. Although you have chosen a life in the clouds over that of terra firma, stop acting like such assholes when your super-platinum-double-premier boarding group is called. Try and realize that the two dozen passengers you steamrolled with your siamese wheelie/laptop bag might not bow to your ascension to the top of the air jockey pyramid. Desperately crying out “Premier Executive!”, “Platinum!” or “Elite!” puts a target on your back that my venti latte may be magnetically drawn to.


I hate to burst the imaginary bubble you believe surrounds you and everything within a twenty foot radius, but I can kinda sorta hear every frickin’ word you’re screaming into your cell phone. Aunt Martha’s ass is still sore from her procedure? Got it. The big M&A transaction fell apart because the investment bank screwed up the valuation (with all firm names called out)? Bingo. Your client, the one accused of rape, was wearing a condom (followed by a big “Whew!” while fifty people wish you a slow death)? Roger that. You are in public. I can hear you, have a camera on my phone and immediate access to social media. Don’t make me break you.

4. Too Much Baggage

Welcome aboard and please be seated as quickly as possible so we can leave on time. Oh, and while you’re at it, pretend your overstuffed carry-on is a marshmallow that can be crammed into the tiny little spot that remains in the overhead. And if that magic trick doesn’t work, repeatedly slam the door until it breaks (which delayed my last flight), remove someone else’s nicely sized piece (causing a flight attendant to declare on a recent trip, “No way honey, get your shit outta there right now!” to applause) or just leave it jutting out and walk away. Passengers and crew alike are getting very surly and will jump on your ass in about two seconds on this one. And yes, I will laugh at your expense. Keep the entertainment coming fool.

5. Are You Comfy?

Ten minutes after takeoff and the little *ding* tells me it’s okay to take out electronics, and this being business travel, I need to get right to work by kicking open my trusty laptop. You, lovely person in front of me, decide that it’s your God-given American right to press that silver button and let gravity be your guide. And although I really don’t want the plane to turn around and jet fighters to scramble because I knocked on your head like a soft-boiled egg, how about we avoid the entire confrontation by you having a little courtesy for those behind you? Or maybe that’s too much to ask…

6. Lushes, Lovers and Losers

One of the beautiful (and occasionally nightmarish) things about modern air travel is the snapshot of Americana present on every single flight. Three of my favorites that I’ve recently encountered are lushes (including the drunk guy next to me who asked for two whiskeys and and shot of Patron, to which the flight attendant responded, “Sir, this is not a flying bar!“), the lovers (such as the couple next to me who nervously looked around while the woman pulled a blanket over her boyfriend’s crotch and they both started moaning) and the losers (like the creepy guy directly behind me who said, “It’s been years since I sat next to a pretty girl“, to which she brilliantly replied, “It’s been years since I maced someone on a plane“). By all means let your freak flag fly, just not in the friendly skies.

7. Get Me Off This Crazy Ride

Despite the first six eff-ups, somehow we manage to arrive at our destination intact and without bloodshed. Taxiing into the gate, cell phones get turned on, makeup is touched up, breath mints are popped and the tension builds toward the final battle – getting off the damn plane as soon as possible. Yet despite grade school knowledge of lines and the natural order of the seating, some people leap up as if cattle prodded, drag their 8,000 pound bag from the overhead and suddenly appear next to you with their chest heaving from the rush of it all. And God forbid the flight attendant asks that “you remain seated so that those with tight connections can make their flights“. Stay calm. Be polite. Wait your turn.

This has been quite cathartic, thank you. Despite my confidence that this is a good list, I’m certain I’ve missed some other gems which make your own travel a horror on high. Share your comments and stories below and I’ll see you at 35,000 feet.

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How to order "non-sparkling" water in Italy

Apparently you have to play a game of Charades and Pictionary.

sunny 29 °C

On my Euro trip to Italy, my parents insisted I translate for them because I took foreign languages in high school.

Me: "Dad, I took espanol in school."
Padre: "Exactly. Now use some of that in Italy."
Me: "Do you even know what espanol means?"
Padre: "I don't care. Your mom and I provided you with an American education, so you will translate for us in Italy."
Me: "Si senor, yo quiero una cerveza" (For those non-espanol speaking people, this translates to: "Yes sir, I want a beer.")
Padre: "Great. We're counting on you."

There is no point in arguing with the parental units. No point.

Anyway, we made it to Italy, and enjoyed a beautiful day walking around the beautiful city of Roma. Eventually, we found a nice little cafe out of the touristy areas of Rome and sat down for food and drinks. We were very thirsty from basking in the hot Roman sun all day.

A friendly waiter came up to take our orders. Since I was the language expert, I proceeded to order some water first. Luckily, I did happen to know the Italian word for water - acqua. The waiter seemed to understand me and disappeared into the kitchen. A few minutes later, he came back with a tall green bottle of S.Pellegrino. Italians love to drink sparkling water.

I poured the parental units a glass each, only for my padre to spray it out in disgust.

Padre: "Ugh. I don't want sparkling water. Can you get us some regular water? Your madre and I are going to the restroom. Get some regular water before we get back."

I called the waiter back and decided to just ask him politely in English.

"Hi, can we just get some non-sparkling water?" I said.

Waiter: No response.

"Uhhhh, you know, water with no bubbles?" I tried again.

Waiter: No response. Awkward silence.

It was now obvious he didn't speak English. I decided to take this conversation back to the basics. I pointed to the bottle of S.Pellegrino and shook my head.

"No Pellegrino. I want normal acqua," I said hopefully. Maybe the waiter understands Italish.
"Signore, questa è l'acqua," replied the waiter.
"Uh, yes, acqua. No Pellegrino. Acqua." I repeated, not understanding a single word.

Waiter: No response. Awkward silence. Look of bemusement.

I decided to try the other standard approach of trying to get the waiter to understand me.

"I WANT NOOOOORRRRRMAL WATER. NOOOOOORRRRRMAL ACQUA," I said slowly and loudly. I don't know why, but when faced with someone who does not understand us, we, humans, will simply treat the person as if he/she was deaf, and will repeat our statements louder and slower, as if that would solve the problem.

Waiter: No response. Awkward silence. Look of bemusement replaced by look of WTH.

I was starting to panic because the parental units were going to come back soon. Thus, I resorted to a more rudimentary form of human communication: Charades.

Two fingers, two words.

"No sparkling," I said earnestly, accompanied by jazz hands.

Waiter: No response. Awkward silence. WTF + You're crazy face.

"No? Not getting it?" I mumbled to myself, trying rack my brain for another way to act out no bubbles. That's it! The word sparkling might not translate in Italian to still water.

Two fingers, two words.

"No bubbles," I said again. This time, I pantomimed bubbles with the opening and closing of my fist accentuated with the opening and closing of my mouth like a goldfish.

Waiter: Slowly backs away.

Clearly Italians don't know how to play charades. Or I have no acting skills for sparkling/bubbles.

So stupid. So stupid.

"OK, THAT'S IT!!! TAKE THIS TO YOUR MANAGER!!!" I shouted as I pulled out a sharpie and sketched the universal sign for non-sparkling water:


Waiter: Takes picture and backs away. Look of bemusement turns into look of amusement.

He takes the napkin with my artwork on it and returns to the kitchen. Finally, he returns with a bottle of water, non-sparkling.

Success. Finally!!!

I'm pretty sure the waiter spoke English, and just wanted to see me work for it. Sigh. I sure did. Anyway, next time you're in Italy, make sure you know how to play Pictionary! And have a sharpie with you just in case. A picture is worth a thousand words.

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Awkward Timing

Timing is everything....


One of the challenges of traveling for work is the timezone changes. It is very confusing for my brain and body. Mondays mornings are the worst - my body is on EST, my brain is on CST, and work starts on PST.

I try to maintain some order in this chaos. I leave my watch on CST, and my computer on PST. That way, I figure I'll know what time meetings are at work, and avoid further scoldings by friends for calling them at 3 am thinking it's only midnight. It's only happened a couple of times.....

Me: "Hey! How's it going? I'm at the midnight showing of HP7! Eeeeek."
EST Friend: "Oh hey....(yawn)....that's great...."
Me: "You don't sound excited! What kind of a HP fan are you!?!"
EST Friend: "The kind that has already gone to the midnight premiere and is ready to expelliarmus you for waking me up!"
Me: "Whaaaat? You already saw it?!?"
EST Friend: "Yes, genius, it's called three hours ahead on the East Coast. And as a spoiler for spoiling my sleep, Harry DIES!"
Me: "Noooooooooooooo!!!"

My genius plan of keeping different times on my watch and computer is clearly not helping.

It certainly didn't help me when I received an invite for a house warming party of a colleague on my laptop.

Hi everyone,

I finally got around to reserving my condo’s party room for a house warming party. The plan is to do some grilling and drinking. I will provide some grillables and beverages, but feel free to bring your own as well. Hope you all can make it!

Also, feel free to bring guests!

The invite said 2 pm to 10 pm.

I thought I'd pop in for a little bit and check out my colleague's place. Armed with Corona Extras, I decided to show up at 3pm, 'cause you don't want to show up too early to a party. Especially since I didn't know the host super well, I figured it would be easier when there's more people around and I can mingle with the crowd. Yep, my plan is foolproof. My timing is not.

I showed up at his door at 3:10 pm dressed in a v-neck tee, plaid shorts, and red shoes. I call this ensemble Fashionably Late.

I dialed the code for his apartment complex.

No answer.

I called him on his cell phone.

No answer.

I texted him.

No answer.

"Weird....," I thought to myself. "Maybe he can't hear his phone."

By now, I was starting to look stupid holding all that beer and standing by a door.

Luckily, an elderly couple living in the same condo came along, and I tailgated in. Now I got to look stupid holding all that beer but by the mailboxes instead.

Finally, my colleague texts me, asking me to come up to the 8th floor.

Me: "Hey! Happy house warming!"
Colleague: "Thanks!"
Me: "Am I the first one here?" as I looked around the empty condo.
Colleague: "Yep! I actually just got back from shopping for the party."
Me: "Oh really? I thought the party started an hour ago...."
Colleague: "Um, it's starts at 4pm."


Yep, you guessed it. My computer was on still on PST, but I was living in CST. So instead of showing up casually to the party one hour late, I showed up at the party one hour early.

Awkward x2.

"Well, I can help you set up for the party...." I mumbled awkwardly.
"Sure, I gotta go take a shower first, so just chill for a bit."

Awkward x3.

There wasn't much to set up so we spent the next hour making small talk.

Awkward x4.

I had planned to stay only a couple of hours, so by the time I had to leave the party, only one other person showed up.

Me: "Sorry, gotta go. Great party....."

Awkward x1039870739289382.

I really need to work on my timing!

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Never underestimate a girl

If the girl comes from Texas, then ya'll better be ready.....'cause everything's bigger in Texas

It is a truth universally acknowledged that Americans unable to understand the concept of traveling light. In the words of Miss Teen USA, I personally believe that the U.S. Americans are unable to do so because, uh, some, uh.....people out there in our nation don't have small suitcases. Our education over here in the U.S. should help the U.S., err, uh, should help South Africa and should help the Iraq and the Asian countries, so we will be able to build bigger compartments aboard trains to accommodate our, such as, bigger suitcases.

I had the fortune of witnessing this truth as a gaggle of girls boarded the Eurostar going from Rome to Florence. I had no idea where these girls were from until I saw them dragging aboard suitcases heavier than their own body weight.

Girl 1: "Hey, ya'll, where are our seats?"
Girl 2: "Hey, Houston's got 'em tickets?"

Not just Americans, but Texans. When they say things are bigger in Texas, they also include suitcases. As it turns out, these girls were backpacking through Europe. If by backpacking you mean each girl having a:

overstuffed designer handbag + a puffed up duffel bag bursting at the seams + a suitcase big enough build a bunker during an WWII air raid

then yes, they = "backpacking" through Europe .

I had no idea how they got all their stuff aboard the train, but the final test lay ahead of them: lifting their suitcases onto the overhead compartments.

Luckily for them, a man that looked liked he could audition for the next season of Jersey Shore came over to help. I don't know his name, so let's just say Macho man came to the rescue. Macho man looked every part of the superhero. He wore a smug smile over his red gym tank top embossed with a letter M. His costume lets you know he's just finished working out and his muscles were in prime condition. Macho man goes from train to train, helping those who cannot help themselves. Plus, he's a fan of Pauly D, and decided that since he's in Italy, he can rock the "blowout look" to help out with this situation:


After all, he can channel some guido in Italy, right? Right.

"Yo ladies, you want some help with those bags?" said Macho man as he flexed his broad shoulders.
"Oh yes, can you help us put it up there?" the girls giggled as they ogled Macho man's powerful guns.

Like Olympic weightlifting, the process of putting the suitcase in the overhead compartment can be divided into three phases:

The squat phase: the lifter prepares to lift the suitcase by evenly distributing his weight in the squat position:


The clean phase: The lifter jumps the suitcase up through triple extension (in very quick succession) of the hips, knees and then ankles and brings the suitcase to his shoulder level:


The overhead jerk phase: The lifter bends the knees and thrusts his leg back and raises his arm in winning Olympic gold fashion and puts the suitcase into the overhead compartment:


Macho man looked like a pro as he grabbed the suitcase nonchalantly. Phase 1 and 2 were completed with ease and Macho man knew Olympic gold was within sight. He could picture himself with the golden blond Texas girls around his neck as he raised his arms for phase 3.

However, like Olympic weightlifting, you must hold phase 3 for at least three seconds for it to count. Macho guy's triumphant smile lasted only one second before it turned into an expression of surprise and then pain as his outstretched arms started to fall sideways like the Leaning Tower of Pisa. Gone were the graces of the Olympic weightlifter. Instead, it was replaced a hapless weakling who was manically trying to keep the suitcase aloft with his hands, knees, and anything he could use to support the suitcase (this included using the heads of the passengers sitting below).

The admiring smiles of the gaggle of girls turned into looks of alarm as they all rushed over to help Macho man save the things they cannot live without on this trip:

  • 2 hairdryers
  • 20 pairs of shoes
  • 3 curling irons
  • 12 novels
  • 5 pairs of sunglasses
  • 3 different colored pashminas (to match their eyes/mood)
  • A souvenir marble statue of David
  • Enough makeup that the chemicals in them can blow open another hole at the Pantheon
  • And god knows what else they need..... (Guys, never don't argue with girls when they're packing. Everything is necessary!)

With the combined efforts of every man, woman, and child aboard the train, the first of 5 suitcases was finally lifted to the top only for them to realize it was not going to fit.


Instead, the girls had to leave it in the aisle, and hold onto the suitcase for the entire trip to Florence. It's OK, Rick Steves said you should always hold on to your valuables. They were just following his advice.

As for Macho man, he had finally meet this kryptonite. His superpowers were rendered useless and he hobbled back to his seat because he managed to blowout his back as well.

Never underestimate the packing powers of an American girl.

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Venice - The City of Two Faces

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I’ve finally finished reading The City of Falling Angels by John Berendt. The book is his reflection on Venice, and the character(s) of Venice set against the backdrop of the burning of the Fenice (famous opera house in Venice). Reading the book has inspired me to give my own reflection on Venezia:

For centuries, people have been fascinated by the mystique of Venice and enchanted by its beauty. This is evidenced by works of the great Giovanni Antonio Canal. His landscapes or vedute of Venice capture the beauty of The Grand Canal and the ornate design of the Doge’s Palace:


Having admired such great masterpieces of Venice, I was salivating to get a taste of Venice in real life.

Venice is an island with a canal. The Grand Canal snakes through Venice, dividing it into halves. This divide gives Venice its dual personality. It’s a city of ying and yang, light and darkness. During the day, Venice is the jovial host, welcoming everyone to the Carnival. Thousands of tourists flock to the island to partake in the daily razzmatazz.

Venice had once been the world’s supreme maritime power. Its reach had extended from the Alps to Constantinople, and its wealth had been unrivaled. The architectural variety of its buildings – Byzantine, Gothic, Renaissance, Baroque, Neoclassical – chronicled an evolving aesthetic shaped by a millennium of conquest and their accumulated spoils.

Everyday, mobs of tourists weave through the labyrinthine streets and alleyways of Venice trying to get to St Mark’s Square, or the Rialto Bridge. However, even with the best map in hand, you are likely to get lost. But getting lost is exactly Venice’s way of inviting you to see Venice. Sometimes, we just need to put down that map, and stop worrying about the next item on itinerary. Instead, just let yourself get lost in architectural masterpiece of this city. The feeling of standing in spot and just looking around at Venice is something that even Giovanni Antonio Canal can’t give you in his masterpiece.

Likewise, Venice’s beauty is not only reflected in the giant feats of cathedral and palaces. Instead, the ornate and intricate glass work of the Venetian craftsman is a microcosm of the character of Venice: beautiful, ornate, delicate, and intoxicating. You simply cannot look away:


However, night eventually falls upon the island, and the Carnival comes to end. The mobs of tourists return to the mainland, happy and exhausted from a day of frivolity. The churning of the engines from the water vaporettos come to a quiet. The waters from the canal calms down to a glassy stillness, reflecting the full moon that hang on the canvas of a starless night sky. This Venice invites you to another party: the masquerade ball. The city puts on a mask of darkness. Beams of moonlight cast a hazy glow upon the city. This Venice invites you to meet a mysterious and handsome stranger in the alleyway.

This dark side of Venice is the perfect setting for a mystery. Sinister moods could be easily conjured by shadowy back canals and hidden passageways. Reflections, mirrors, masks suggest that things are not what they seem. It is this Venice that has inspired some of the greatest works of literature. The Aspern Papers, a novella by Henry James, introduced the world to a nameless narrator, who goes to Venice to locate Juliana Bordereau. Juliana is an old lover of Jeffrey Aspern, a famous and now deceased American poet. The narrator presents himself to the old woman as a prospective lodger and is prepared to court her niece Miss Tita, a plain and somewhat naive spinster, in hopes of getting a look at some of Aspern’s letters and other papers kept by Juliana. While the central characters are all fully realized, James describes Venice so lovingly that the city almost becomes a character in its own right, a crumbling, beautiful, mysterious place where the incredible becomes real and the strange is almost commonplace.

Upon return from my Euro trip, people asked me if I bought any nice souvenirs from my travels. The one I treasure the most and wear everyday is a necklace from Venice. The pendant is a masquerade ball mask, but with two faces, just like Venice:


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Eurotrip Recap

The adventures continue!

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Hola people, I apologize for the lack of updates, but I have returned from hiatus. School, new job, excuses all filled in and have made me absent from blogging. But am back, and traveling again. Finally went on my Eurotrip and visited Italy, France, and revisited London. Europe this second time around is just as crazy -- probably more crazy because I decided to bring my parents along. Returned from Euro trip as tan as the bronze statues that stand in Piazza del Michelangelo in Florence. Maybe I should change my name to “David”.

Anyway, my Euro trip resembled a death march across Europe mandated by the People’s Republic of My Parents. Their idea of traveling is to hit every spot on the map. If a map has a picture of a building on it, they will go visit it. If the map has a star next to a location name, they will go see it. They will leave no stone unturned, and certainly no cathedral/museum/gallery/anything ever recommended by Rick Steves unseen ’cause god forbid they don’t get their money’s worth on this trip! They were on a mission.

Mission 1: Rome

Difficulty Level: Impossible
Objective: Eliminate all visible targets

* Piazza Venezia
* Monumento a Vittorio Emanuelle II
* Colosseo
* Palatino
* Roma Foro
* Repubblica
* Palazzo del Esposizioni
* Fontana di Trevi
* Castel Sant’ Angelo
* Piazza San Pietro

Weapons equipped: Nike running shoes, bag pack full of water bottles, sandwiches for breakfast, lunch and dinner because we won’t have time to stop and eat at a restaurant.

Final boss: The wrath of my parental units. Hell hath no fury like my madre being deprived of seeing a gallery. There has been much talk about that Asian Tiger mom. She has not met the true dragon warrior. My madre will take Tiger mom and slap her with a noodle and turn her into a stuffed dumpling.

Mission details:
At precisely 0700 hours, we will all be awake. At 0730 hours, we will have finished brushing our teeth, ate breakfast, combed our hair, and emptied our bowels because there will be NO bathroom breaks once the mission starts. At precisely 0735 hours, we will leave the hotel door. At exactly 0900, we will arrive at first target. At 1005 hours, we will be allowed to drink a sip of water. We will not be allowed to rest until the Red Amy is victorious. In essence, we were still very Chinese as we re-enacted the Long March across Roma. Long live Chairman Mao!

Frankly, I thought this time I’d be the one showing my parents around Europe, after having studied abroad in London. Nope. As soon as my madre got hold of a map, she started her reign. We were in Italy, so my madre was definitely channeling some inner Mussolini and gave an Oscar-worthy performance as dictator. Her reign meant she picked every spot we should visit in every country. I shudder to think what she’d have been like if we had went to Germany instead. She’d probably have me and my padre sent to a concentration camp for not washing our clothes in the hotel sink (just keep reading).

Sometimes my padre would try and help out by navigating the map in Paris. Big mistake. My mom does not read signs. Instead she relies on her inner compass. She says she was born with the sense of direction, and can always tell where to go. Dad does not have such superpowers/sense of direction, and what ensues is two people shouting at each other loudly in Chinglish on Avenue des Champs Elysess:

Madre: “Aiyaaaaaaa, we need to go West, because that’s where that Winning Door is!”

Padre: “You mean the Arc de Victory? But the map says to go East!”

Me: It’s called Arc de Triomphe…..

Madre and Padre:


Madre: “You don’t even know how to read a map. I know we have to go West. My kidney tells me to go West.”

Me: “You mean gut…..”


Padre: “FINE! Which way is West?”

Madre: “That way!” (Points vigorously with her finger in some random direction)

Padre: “How do you know that’s West?”

Madre: “Because my liver says so. And because the sun sets in the West. JUST LOOK AT THE SUN!”

Padre: “What do you mean look at the SUN?!? It’s noon right now! It’s right in the middle!”

Me: “Aiyaaaaaa…….”

Our long march across Europe meant each day we would not return to our hotel room till 11pm every night. By then, our bodies are tired, our knees ached, and all I wanted to do was to collapse on my bed and fall asleep. But first, I had to wash all my clothes by hand.

Yes, you see my madre does not believe in laundry mats when traveling. She says they are too expensive, and take too much time out of the day. Instead, we must all wash our clothing in the bathroom sink of the hotel every night by hand. She then proceeds to use the bathroom first. By the time I’m allowed to use the bathroom to shower and wash my laundry, it is already 1am. After all the laundry has been washed by hand, they are hung out to dry. In particular, the shower curtain rod is used to hang an assortment of socks that are hung out to dry like a school of pickled fish:


I can only imagine the bemused and amused expression of the hotel maid as she comes to clean our rooms everyday.

To cope with the emotional stress I have to endure from my parents, I sometimes vent to my friends. I told my Asian friend this story. He is usually very understanding of my parents, and say it’s because they are Asian. After this story, he just started laughing and said this was “Beyond Asian”. I guess I have the title of my next book!

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Taking exams at Westminster Abbey!

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Sorry for the lack of updates, but I've been a little preoccupied with revision for a past few weeks, or month.... Let's just say it's been a long time, and I'm definitely sick of studying. Initially, I thought the Brits were crazy/lazy, because they had literally two months to study for finals. Then I discovered a lot of them had 8 exams, because all of them are year end. Because there is so much time for studying, I have now discovered that professors definitely emphasize quality of work. The exams are usually essay based, and they scrutinize every little detail because they take two months to grade a paper. Also, professors expect students to do a lot of external reading, and use them to strengthen the arguments inside a paper. Some of my friends took a bio class and had to write a paper requiring 50 sources! Seriously, that's like a 20 page paper, and a 10 page bibliography!

Exams are also pretty much the entire grade. Mine range from 70% to 100%. So if you bomb the test, you fail, and lots of people do actually fail. There are no pity points, because professors have no idea who you are. You don't put your name on the exam paper, only your candidate number, so professor can pass impartial judgment (like God). If you fail, you can retake exams, but since I'm a study abroad student, I don't exactly think it's feasible for me to fly back next year to retake an exam (or maybe it's an excuse to come back....) Anyhow, I've been poring over my textbooks, and taking copious notes. I think I copied my Business Strategy textbook verbatim into notes -- twice.

I'm also becoming increasingly distracted by the bookmark that I bought at Oxford University. It has a picture of a gargoyle holding a diploma. Underneath, it says:

The more I study, the more I know. The more I know, the more I forget. The more I forget, the less I know. So why study?

At first I thought it was just funny, but now I think it's true. The more I study, the less I know. I feel like my brain is like hard drive, and I can only fill it with so many bytes of information. If I try to pack more information, information further down the stack gets deleted. When I finished my first final, I felt like I just completed a memory dump. My essay was like a verbal vomit, overflowing with information that I could no longer contain inside my brain. Now I have to reformat it, and upload information for my next finals.

Finally, the craziest thing about exams in London is where I actually go to take it. I don't know how it works in Universities in NY, but London Universities have no classrooms large enough for exams. Hence, they have to rent out enormous halls at places at Westminster and the Royal Horticulture Center. The halls are filled with 1000 seats. Yes, that's three zeros. You are assigned a seat number, and you be better get there early if you're in seat 999. It's also quite daunting to look up during an exam, and see 999 other people writing furiously.


Another thing, the exam venue does not open its doors until 20 minutes before the exams. Thus, you have a thousand people jostling to use the bathroom, and find a place to put their bags in the clock room. As if the exams weren't stressful enough already! Whatever you take into exam hall must be in a transparent plastic bag, and the invigilator will walk back and forth during your exam to check things. It can actually get a bit annoying, especially when they checked my name against a list three different times in one hour. Seriously, I AM NOT A TERRORIST!

I just finished taking my Management Accounting exam at the Central Hall Westminster:


It's opposite Westminster Abbey and Houses of Parliament. It just feels so weird to be taking an exam in such an important place. Seriously, if King's students take exams here, what about students who go to University College London (UCL)? Or London School of Economics (LSE)? Maybe they get a room at Buckingham Palace!

So after I finished my exam in the morning, I did go visit Westminster Abbey. Why not?

P.S If you thought this was the end, then you're wrong. My life is never without drama, even during finals. Apparently when you sign up for exams, you are assigned an examination passport. Then you need a visa to take an exam, and as any Chinese person knows, getting a visa is always problematic. I'm currently unregistered for my last exam, so I have to show up on the 27th and hope for a spot. Fun fun.

Why can't my exams be more like this:


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